The Type by Sarah Kay

I came upon this poem posted on Facebook by a friend and really enjoyed it. I feel like the message is powerful for women and the video makes it even better. I hope you enjoy. Share your thoughts below…

The Type

by Sarah Kay

If you grow up the type of woman men want to look at,
You can let them look at you.
But do not mistake eyes for hands,
Or windows for mirrors.
Let them see what a woman looks like.
They may not have ever seen one before.

If you grow up the type of woman men want to touch,
You can let them touch you.
Sometimes it is not you they are reaching for.
Sometimes it is a bottle, a door, a sandwich, a Pulitzer, another woman –
But their hands found you first.
Do not mistake yourself for a guardian, or a muse, or a promise, or a victim or a snack.
You are a woman –
Skin and bones, veins and nerves, hair and sweat
You are not made of metaphors,
Not apologies, not excuses.

If you grow up the type of woman men want to hold,
You can let them hold you.
All day they practice keeping their bodies upright.
Even after all this evolving it still feels unnatural,
Still strains the muscles, holds firm the arms and spine.
Only some men will want to learn what it feels like to curl themselves into a question mark around you,
Admit they don’t have the answers they thought they would by now.
Some men will want to hold you like the answer.
You are not the answer.
You are not the problem.
You are not the poem, or the punchline, or the riddle, or the joke.

Woman, if you grow up the type of woman men want to love,
You can let them love you.
Being loved is not the same thing as loving.
When you fall in love,
It is discovering the ocean after years of puddle jumping.
It is realising you have hands.
It is reaching for the tightrope after the crowds have all gone home.
Do not spend time wondering if you are the type of woman men will hurt.
If he leaves you with a car alarm heart.
You learn to sing along.
It is hard to stop loving the ocean,
Even after it’s left you gasping, salty.
So forgive yourself for the decisions you’ve made,
The ones you still call mistakes when you tuck them in at night,
And know this.
Know you are the type of woman who is searching for a place to call yours.
Let the statues crumble.
You have always been the place.
You are a woman who can build it yourself.
You are born to build.

Holiday Market

inviteLast year I had the privilege to participate in a Holiday market that my pastor’s wife and fellow church member hosted. I was able to sell lots of my handmade goods and earn some extra money for the holidays.

Daniel and I have now moved to Georgia and I thought it would be a really fun way to get to know people and help support some fellow artists/entrepreneurs I have met since moving here. With the help of my co-worker, Kristen Camp, who is also an artist/potter/ jeweler extraordinare, we set up an event open to the public.

Friday November 22nd, we will be having a holiday market at the Firehouse Museum & Community Center (103 W Mill St, Jonesboro, Georgia 30236-353). For those of you who go to First Baptist Jonesboro, that is just around the corner from the church next to the Clothes Closet.

The event will run from 6:00pm to 8:30pm. Drinks and treats will be sold.

We really wanted to provide you will a variety of different booths so we asked friends/family with all sorts of talents! Here are the featured booths we will have set up:


Kristen Camp (my co-worker) is both a potter and a painter! She loves to incorporate those skills into functional house ware items! At the Holiday Market she will be selling anything from hand painted pillows to ceramic dinnerware sets to jewelry! Kristen will also be selling a wide variety of Holiday items! So bring your pocket books and prepare to knock out a good deal of your holiday shopping in one place! 


~Pottery, Jewelry, Woodwork, Painting, Home decor, etc.


Bonnie Eaton (a friend of Kristen) was born and raised a Georgia peach. She explores a wide variety of themes in her art. She enjoys painting with acrylics and oils, as well as mixed media . She also is newly trying her hand at custom murals. She will be bringing an assortment of decorative holiday items and crafts for the home. Bonnie will be featuring holiday paintings and wreaths for this Christmas season. Her mom, Rebecca Seaton will also be joining Bonnie’s booth with some special holiday items.

~Paintings and holiday items


Joe Camp (Kristen’s Husband) is a baker at heart! He loves to spend time in the kitchen experimenting and creating delicious things to eat! Joe’s booth at the Holiday Market will be filled with holiday treats to eat as you stroll through the market booths as well as bagged goodies you can take home and share! He will also be selling delicious/warm holiday drinks to get you in the mood!


~Baked Goods: Cookies, Candies, Ect.

~Hot Drinks: Hot Chocolates, Coffee, Etc.


Sam Camp (my soon-to-be brother in-law) is a photographer and videographer from Jonesboro, GA. He loves to play with composition, lighting, and angles to create that perfect shot! He also does contract video work for all sorts of companies. Sam will be setting up a photo booth at the Holiday Market to take portraits you can share with friends and family. Make sure you stop by his booth to capture your holiday cheer!

~Photo booth with professional quality photos to send to family and friends!


Meredith (a friend from church) is an Independent Sales Consultant for Norwex. Norwex is one of fastest growing direct sales company in the U.S. Norwex offers a better, faster, cheaper, easier, and healthier way to clean. Be sure to stop by Meredith’s booth to learn how to revolutionize the way you clean. Give the gift of Norwex this Christmas…your family will thank you.


~Cleaning supplies

~Special: Free monogram with the purchase of a towel.


And then there is me: I was born and raised in Canada. I have always had a love for art and enjoy getting my hands dirty. I attended art school in Canada and majored in Fashion Marketing at The Art Institute of Vancouver. I currently resides with my husband, Daniel, in Hampton, GA. I sell my art and handmade goods through my store on Etsy, Come stop by my booth at The Holiday Market!

~Paintings and Prints

~Paper crafts: cards and gift tags

~Textiles: Fabric scarfs, tutus, knitting, crochet, blankets. etc.

We are all super excited about the market and really hope that if you live in the area you can come out, support your local artist and entrepreneurs, and get all your Christmas shopping done in one place! I would love to see you there!

(If you can’t make it, make sure to check out my online store after the market, I will be putting anything I have left over up on there)

Saying Goodbye


Our big move day is coming up soon! We move on Saturday afternoon as soon as the moving company drives away.


We have lived in our tiny little apartment on campus since August of 2010. It has been such a journey and we have met so many new people. My husband Daniel has been studying for his Masters in Divinity at Golden Gate Theological Seminary. He was able to finish his program in 3 years and I am so proud of him for being able to graduate on Friday.


We were able to experience so much of the city, going to baseball games, driving over the bridge weekly, driving along the coast, and enjoying so many different kinds of food. San Francisco has been one of the most beautiful and cool places we have lived. We will miss the runs along the water, the ocean, the rolling hills, and the beautiful architecture. Daniel is a huge Giants fan so we can definitely see ourselves coming back to the city for one reason or another.


Sunday was our last day at church and it was bitter sweet. Our friends at church were very supportive and excited for the new opportunities but it was sad to say our goodbyes. I have always had a hard time with goodbyes. I tend to compartmentalize things, I suppose as a defense mechanism. I don’t let myself think about saying goodbye to people until the last day.


There are a lot of people we have met during our time here that will last past our time in SF. We have definitely made friends with people that will last a lifetime. It makes it easier to say goodbye when you know that some day (hopefully soon) we will see each other again.


Our time here has gone by so fast! We can’t believe we are already done but it has been wonderful and we have made so many good memories!


God has blessed us with our time here and we are so excited for the new journey He is taking us on. Pray that we continue to seek God’s guidance and we follow in obedience as this new journey unfolds.